Family Engagement: Encouraging Independence and Open Conversations Content
Supporting your teens’ emotional wellbeing works best when it’s a family effort. When parents/guardians, grandparents, and other relatives show emotional support, teens feel less alone, and are more likely to use tools like Project YES. Sharing this website with family members also makes it easier for them to recommend this resource.
At the same time, teens need space to make their own choices. Letting them decide when and how to use Project YES builds confidence and gives them ownership of their growth. The right balance is family support plus independence.
This guide includes:
- Practical tips for encouraging your teen while respecting their privacy
- Sample scripts to help talk with relatives about supporting your teen
- Suggestions for picking the right time and space to start a conversation
Sometimes it can be hard to find the “right” words to say when talking to your teen about their problems, but what matters most is showing your teen that you’re there to listen. Even small questions can open the door:
- What was the best and hardest part of your day?
- How have you been feeling lately?
Pick simple, everyday moments, like driving to school or sitting at the dinner table, when there are fewer distractions and conversations feel more natural. Here are some quick ways to introduce Project YES:

Show, don’t tell.
Try the demo yourself first, then casually mention, “I found this short activity teens are using in Montana; it only takes about 5-10 minutes. Want to check it out?”

Connect to their goals.
If your teen talks about stress with school, friends, or sports, you might say: “There's mini courses that helps teens figure out their own game plan for stress, want to see if it can help you?”

Give them ownership; it’s their choice.
“It’s private, and you don’t have to share with me unless you want to. You get to decide how to use it.”

Make it relatable.
Share that teens across Montana helped designed Project YES: “Other teens your age tested this out to make sure it feels real and useful.”
You know your teen best, and which approach they would prefer. Although Project YES is not a replacement for therapy or longer-term care, our research has shown that when teens use Project YES it can increase motivation to seek further mental health support if needed. If you would like more suggestions on how to start the conversation about mental health follow the you can check out Adult to Teen Support: Navigating Conversations Around Mental Health and for Project YES tips check out these ready-to-use text examples:
Name the Awkwardness
“I know it can be awkward to talk to me about this stuff, but I want you to know I am always here to listen.”
Notice Without Prying
“I have noticed you’ve been hanging back from your friends lately. Maybe it’s nothing, but if it’s on your mind, I’m here if you want to talk.”
On the Road or at the Table
“You know we’ve got a lot of time between here and town. If you ever want to talk about stuff, school, friends, stress, this is a good place to do it.”
Offer Choice, Not Control
“I know you have your own way of handling things. This is just one tool that might help, you can decide if and when you want to try it.”
Keep It Casual
“Hey, I heard about this thing called Project YES, some Montana teens helped design it. It’s quick, private, and you can do it on your phone. Just thought I would share in case you’re feeling stressed.”